You may have had some lofty goals in January, maybe something that was to revolutionize your entire life, or perhaps something as simple as shining your shoes weekly. Now that we’re a couple of months in, how do things stand?
It’s Never Too Late
It’s never too late. You’ve had time to see what’s working, and what needs improvement. Perhaps deciding to get fit with a burst of hardcore exercise didn’t work, instead try to make a commitment to eat healthier and set regular gym appointments. If you’ve found that the gym just doesn’t do it for you, sign up for a team sport that gets you out of the house, and has a social aspect as well. You can always take your kids skating, play soccer or tag with them. If you enjoy it, you’re more likely to stick with it.
Let it be gradual. If you plan to learn new skills, know that it’s going to take time and practice –it won’t happen overnight. Set monthly goals, and record them in your calendar to remind yourself. Reward yourself for each milestone you meet. Celebrate your successes, but don’t beat yourself up over missed deadlines – see what you can do to get back on track. Keep in mind that this is supposed to be fun.
Make a Commitment to Others
Maybe you’ve allowed things to slide a little, and want to get back on track. The goal is to make these changes a good habit, not something you do for a couple of weeks and then return to your old routines. If you said you were going to call your mother once a week, set a regular day if you can. Other ideas might be to make plans to go hiking regularly with a friend, or join a recreational team sport. When your goal involves other people and a set date, your commitment will not only be to yourself, but to others – and that can help.
Build on Your Success
When you’re doing well, you feel better about it. To keep the momentum going, look for other things you can do around it to make yourself feel even better. For example, if your shoes are shinier than before and you know you feel great when you leave the house, imagine how much better you will feel if you pick what to wear for the day with a little more care – well, you get the idea.
by Nico Mara-McKay