Everyone experiences ups and downs. Life is going well and then something happens that sets you back, perhaps a bit, maybe more. Now, nothing seems to move forward. It could be just a general feeling or one attached to something specific, like your career, your relationship, your own personal development. You tell people you’re in a rut, or bored with life. You feel listless, anxious and discontent. There’s no other good word for it except you’re “stuck”.
The first thing to do when you feel stuck is acknowledge that although things may have happened to make you feel stuck – in reality, you’re not. Each of us has the power within ourselves to push through these challenging times and get back moving again. It isn’t going to happen overnight, particularly if you’ve had a major set back. But once you make the choice to get “unstuck”, you can be sure that you have what you need to get your life going again.
Let Go To Make Room For Something New
Once you’ve decided enough is enough, you need to make sure you’re looking forward before you start moving forward. Whatever may have started you into this feeling is now in the past. It is time to look to the future. Let old things go so you can make room for new ones. Whatever could have been or should have been, doesn’t matter. Release regrets. Discard yesterday’s frustrations. Let old pain fade. It takes too much energy to hang onto negative feelings. Unless you begin to let go, you can’t even think of getting unstuck.
Give Yourself Time To Listen
Now, take some time, perhaps a day or even a short vacation, so you can do some serious soul searching. Often we feel stuck when we’ve become so caught up with the everyday details and obligations of life that we’ve stopped doing those things that give us most joy. Think about what you really enjoy doing, what has always made you happiest, and what you’d do more of if you had the time. It could be reading more, spending time with grandchildren, playing a sport or doing a hobby. Now find a way to fit at least one of these favourite activities back into your life. You’ll be surprised how soon you begin to feel more liberated.
Change Your Routine
Make at least one change in your daily or weekly routine. This may be the most difficult to do but who says you have to always live your life exactly the same way? Instead of using Saturday to do chores, use Saturday morning to take a course or visit the gym. Maybe you’ve always had breakfast at home. Why not try set one morning a week aside to have breakfast out with a friend or family member. A change in routine reinforces that you’re not stuck, but in fact, very much in control. You’ll be surprised how energized you feel.
The Sign of Something Greater
Finally, know that getting stuck is temporary and it happens to everyone. In fact, some believe that before a great triumph, many great leaders and inventors also got to the point where they felt stuck. As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
Get up, brush yourself off, take a deep breath, go for a walk and make the decision to get unstuck. You’re well on your way.