It’s hard to believe that the New Year is almost upon us. We know we can’t stop that clock from ticking, so when the countdown begins, let’s raise a glass and toast to a healthier, happier, and more prosperous 2014!
At this time of year, we tend to give ourselves permission to dream again. The possibilities are endless: new jobs, new love interests, or new travel plans. We also tend to think about all the things we wish we had and the person we want to be.
I wish I had a job I was passionate about… I’d like to travel around the world…. If only I could lose 30 pounds… I wish I could meet my soul mate… If only I could afford that house…
Sound familiar? Why keep dreaming if you have the ability to make your wishes come true?
How? All you need to do is change the language you use to express your deepest desires. The three magic words are How can I …?
Why? Consider this: While “I wish” can make it sound like you are waiting for a magic genie to appear, “I will” commits you to making a change in your life that you may not be ready to make. That’s right, “I wish” leaves your dreams up to fate, and “I will” leaves no room for slip-ups.
So when you have some time off this holiday season, try to express your dreams a little differently! Make a conscious effort to use language that puts you in control, but also lets you forgive your little failures along the way. So how do you do that? Start by asking yourself the right questions…
- How can I find a job I feel passionate about?
- How can I turn that house into my home?
- How can I lose weight in a healthy way?
- How can I find love that’s right for me?
- How can I plan a trip around the world?
…you get the idea!
The first step? No more wishes! Once you begin to better understand your needs, and what you need to do to get there, you can begin to take action. With each change comes a little bit of self-discovery – good or bad, these moments will guide you to the place you want to be.
So there you have it. Make learning how to communicate with yourself at the top of your list of resolutions this year. And then, start asking the right questions to make some real, lasting changes in your life…
by Kathleen O’Hagan